nearly twenty years I had really
struggled with a key
verse in the Word of God, and that was Ephesians 5:33. That's
the wonderful verse that tells the husband to love his wife and
the wife to honor and respect her husband.
Each time I read through the passage of Ephesians 5:22-33, 1
would realize that I had absolutely no problem
husband. Oh, how I desperately
wished that the Lord would
have told me to love my him, that
I could do. But this
business about respect and honor, now that really
So I would read these passages, flinching the whole time,
I came up with what I thought
was a brilliant idea. I put on my
hat" , (you know, "Let's Make a Deal") and I went
before the Lord and
that I hadn't been honoring my husband (as if the Lord hadn't noticed).
I told the Lord that I was ready to honor my husband, just as
deserved it! I sensed immediately that this was not at all what
desired of me and was trying to get me to gleen from the
great struggle continued from one year to the next until I had
given up hope that I would ever truly honor my husband with my
way the Lord really desired me to do.
One day about a year ago I was minding my own business reading
the Psalms when God literally dropped the revelation in my heart
as to how I was to honor my husband the way He intended. This is
what I saw in the Word beginning with the scriptures in Psalms
HONOR - Hebrew HADAR
to honor, to glorify, to make splendid. HADAR speaks
of this splendor that belongs to God, to His creation, to His
kingdom, and to man made in God's
image. Psalm 8:3-5
says, "When I consider your heavens, the work of your
fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set into place,
what is man that you are mindful of him, the son of man that you
care for him? You made him a little lower than the heavenly
beings and crowned him with glory and honor." The biblical
view of man is higher and more worth-affirming than any of the
alternate views; in this reference God has actually crowned man
with splendor in spite of his smallness relative to the vast
Think about Jesus, his awesome power to create the universe, to
literally speak things into existence that by His spoken
word alone there is life.
Think about His power to judge, to
convict, to call to repentance.
Now think about that day when
your husband will (not might,
but definitely will) stand before God
Almighty, the Great Creator. Those of you who are single, think
of the husband God has for you in the future. Think about the
eyes of the Lord when they meet your husband's eyes and in the
twinkling of an eye it will all be exposed. Every
every good intention, every everything.
of your very own husband
falling to his knees in
repentance, longing in his heart of hearts for yet another
chance. Just one more chance to be the priest of his home, the
provider, the prayer warrior, to truly love you
dearly loves His Church and did give
His life for her. A burning desire to carry the gospel to
the end of the earth: to lay his hands on the sick and see them
healed; to pray and see deliverance for those in bondage.
His heart aches with a desire to feed the hungry, to minister to
the needy, but to no avail. For it is too late, he
has no last chance.
husband is there on his knees weeping and longing for that one
last chance to go back and make it right, that more than life
itself his heart's desire is to please his Lord and be His
faithful servant, the godly man he has been called to be.. But
wait.... you have been called to be his helpmeet.
Are you doing that? Are you going before the Lord daily
and approaching the throne of Grace boldly on his
behalf? Are you calling his name before the Lord.
You are one. Are you fasting and praying
with him? Are you keeping the Holy Spirit and pleading
with Him to convict your husband and to place a deep desire in
his heart for the things of God?
Are you calling those things that are not as though they
are? For example, as you watch him devour the daily
newspaper like a starving man hungry to see what the world is
offering, do you silently praise God for the day he gets into
the Word with such an insatiable hunger? As he sleeps at
night, do you lay your hand on him and lift him to the Lord that
last time for the day?
Pray for God to give him a true revelation of his
position in your home. Always pray the
answer -- Jesus -- never pray the problem.
As you pour out your heart to the Lord on your husband's behalf,
I believe several things will happen.
1) Your heart will be knit to his in a miraculous
way. A house divided against itself cannot stand.
2) It will cause the hand of God to move in your husband's
life, your marriage, and your family.
3) You will be resisting the enemy and
he must flee.
4) It brings you into agreement with God's word and there is power
So ladies respect and honor that precious -
called your husband. Singles it is never too soon to begin to
pray for that man.
Don't you believe that if the Creator of the universe can honor
him and if Jesus, the Son of God can intercede for him, that you
Respect him, honor him - not because he deserves it!
the position he is in, that position to stand before Almighty
God one day and answer. He will be responsible for what has gone
on in your home. Most men will have absolutely
the awesome responsibility they have and what it actually means.
Therefore, it is up to us as their helpmeets
for them and stand in the gap so that when that day comes, the
Lord can say to them, "Well done, thou good and faithful
servant. Enter into thy place of rest."